Having a slave do demanding punishment household chores can be a very efficient punishment, especially because it usually has a very sobering effect. The idea is to let her do something that will really be no fun, there will be no arousal, since it is supposed to be a punishment.
Adapted household duties are the easiest of chores to pick for this and the punishment usually works better if the job at hand is a demanding job that takes quite some time to accomplish and the dom is around to make sure she works hard and maybe tease her a bit to make things extra difficult to cope with.
Such punishments are highly effective for more serious offenses as well as for subs (a typical novice “problem”) who are manipulative and try to have everything their way, disregarding the doms wants and needs.
The simplest, and quite often most effective, of all is to simply have her scrub the floor(s) the hard, old fashioned way. Down on her bare knees, scrubbing and mopping. But experienced doms won’t stop there. The first thing an experienced dom will do is to order her to sing or whistle while she scrubs away and most of them will also set specific time frames, in which she has to accomplish the task or part of the task she has been ordered to do.
Not meeting these requirements, or a sloppy job, in these cases will usually end in a very painful extra punishment – such as a caning – or, even more cruel, in extra chores for her to do until the time she understands she will have to comply, no matter what.
Executing harsh, real punishments is often difficult to doms, since it goes against their nature. They will usually want pleasure for both and using BDSM-dynamics which offer no pleasure for either – or at least not for one – just doesn’t fit in their book.
This may be tough nut to crack. The first question to ask yourself is: is this really necessary? Answer: no it isn’t, nothing is. You are the master of your own situation and if you don’t want to do it, don’t. That’s a line we could repeat at the end of every article.
However: it will very often be useful to – occasionally – turn a punishment into a real punishment. Most subs actually want the assurance that they will actually, really be punished or at least their is chance they will be. That is not punishment as in erotically exciting and ultimately fun. We are talking no fun – i.e. real – punishments here.
What’s the point, you might ask. Well the point is this. Domination is not only about pleasing the sub. There is very little domination in that (although it can be fun to do). Domination is about really taking control and having it your way (all within reason of course). And sometimes this means you will have to make the sub feel it actually can be like that.
It doesn’t have to, but it can. And most subs will love to feel exactly that, because it gives them a sense of reality. And in its own strange way there is a feeling of security in that.
Those who have been in the military will know that it is things like this – although no fun at all – that bring about a strong sense of bonding as well as a firm understanding of reality. And while military training tactics don’t always work – certainly not in a BDSM-environment – there is something that you can learn from it, which is to make things as realistic as possible. Simply because that will help you survive in the very unrealistic situation you are actually trained for: war. And to some extend that is what you want to achieve: the discipline AND understanding AND trust that will eventually bring you and your sub to a level that can only be mastered through BDSM-bonding.
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