Remember your good old schooldays when your mother told you to lay your textbook under your pillow, so you would learn everything overnight in your dreams and do a great exam the next morning? Well, by now you probably now life doesn’t work that way. But there was a certain logic to you mother’s advice and it is that type of logic that works miracles, in the event you want to condition a submissive.

The fun is this. What your mother managed to do was take away some of your nervousness and probably indeed in your sleep you subconsciously went over everything you had been taught. That is a subtle, yet effective technique to grind in certain messages, especially if you make this a routine.

Quite a few people, doms and subs alike, have fantasies about rather rough situations, such as sleeping on the floor or in a cage. This does happen, but especially as far as sleeping in cages, in barns, stalls or on attics is concerned, there aren’t that many people who are really up to such demanding situations. In fact, there are much more subtle things you can do and these are likely to be much more fun and in fact much more effective as well.

Time Management

Using the one third of her life she spends sleeping is a pretty effective form of time management and a great way to slowly grind in those messages you want to be in her head all the time.

To do this, you subtly, yet effectively interfere with her freedom, by – mildly – cuffing her before she goes to sleep. It doesn’t have to be anything tough or demanding. Just simply cuffing her hands in front of her is more than enough. It will work as a subtle, yet effective reminder and will set her fantasy off. Plus, the little ritual of being cuffed and again being unlocked in the morning can be great personal addition to your life.

As time progresses the message “you are no longer free, but owned” will slowly grind its way into her entire system and you’ll be surprised to see that pretty soon she’ll be unable to sleep uncuffed and will feel a certain unease, whenever that happens. Most subs also sleep better, quieter and deeper, once they are used to sleeping with the cuffs on.

Make sure you opt for comfortable cuffs, you do not want her to accidentally hurt herself while she sleeps. You are looking for a feeling of comfort, safety and security – it must be something she will look forward to.

Limited Freedom

The idea is to only partially limit her freedom. If she moves in her sleep, she’ll feel her hands being cuffed, most of which happens subconsciously.

You can turn things up a notch by cuffing her hands to a chain around her waist. Most submmssives will respond intensely to the use of chain, because of its permanent character and the weight of the chain on their body.

Depending on what works for the two of you the dom can slightly interfere with some of her sleeping routines. For example, if she is used to sleep on her tummy you may want to fix her hands in front of her. This will make that particular way of sleeping uncomfortable and eventually she’ll turn on her back again, implicitly grinding in the message that she should keep her sex available to her owner at all times (which she does not if she sleeps on her belly).

Also, with her hands secured to her tummy she’ll just not be able to reach her genitals, which delivers the message that she is not supposed to, if that is a rule within your particular relationship.

There are other, subtle, ways to limit her freedom while asleep as well. For example, you can chain one of her ankles to the bed, leaving just enough room for her to visit the bathroom. Or you can get yourself one of these airplane sleeping masks and order her to sleep blindfolded.

Earplugs, so her hearing is reduced (earplugs do not fully block all sounds) may be another option. Using earplugs is just another way of adding the possibility of surprise.

With a little creativity and especially holding back on your fantasy but downgrade things to something that is actually feasible and not a burden there is a lot, you can do in this area and especially by keeping things simple, you’ll grind in a very serious message, that will work to the benefit of both of you for a long time. If you meet one of these very well trained slaves, it is more than a little likely her owner has used these types of techniques to train her.

The above article is a reprint from our information/educational site Kink Culture.
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