It is an endless discussion. Is there such a thing as a “good slave”. And if so, are there any criteria for that? Well – although personal preferences and standards may vary – yes there are criteria:

A good slave is obedient.
She is humble.
She radiates servitude.
And she is of course submissive.

To what degree?

All that is for her master/owner to decide.

Under Your Thumb

Humiliation, embarrassment, protocol, rituals, duties and sometimes even hard labour all are effective ways to not only keep her under your thumb, but also to test her end – probably most importantly – strengthen her character, test her limits, motivation and stamina and in general improve her personality. And maybe (if there is a need or desire for that) break her will.

The life a slave should revolve around the following:

• serving, obeying and worshipping her master in every way he desires.
• performing her slave duties.
• adhering to the protocol, set out for her.
• actively show her subdued position through politeness, humbleness, obedience.
• frequent testing of all that to keep her focused and improve her attitude and ability.

All that is extremely personal.

Options and Possibilities

You – master – have an enormous arsenal of options and possibilities. But not everything is for everyone. And the entire package needs to be fully personalized to her boundaries, needs, “problem areas” and – not in the least – your own requirements, wants and needs.

Humiliation – i.e. grinding in humbleness and servitude – is probably the most important set of tools techniques you have to condition your slave and mold her into what you want her to be. Time, repetition and most importantly strictness are the main factors here.

But … work like an artist. Like a sculptor. Go slow: carefully chip away what you don’t need, but do it one bit at a time.

This section deals with the toolbox and the many different tools, you can use. Pick and try what you like, leave behind what you do not fancy.

A slave of course has protocol to keep up and duties to attend to. While much of that is very personal, there are certain rules to go by and there is a lot to learn. That is what this section is all about.

Where ever we can we will use real life reports and interviews. Not only does this help the sketch the reality of BDSM, is is also much more fun.

One of the most important things to understand is that your protocol is probably not everyone’s.

So, please never impose your protocol rules on others, Chances are, you will only irritate people.

In this section we will introduce you to some of the more generally accepted forms of protocol in the BDSM world as well as provide you with some good ideas about protocol you can use in your personal life.

Protocol, at least in the more public sense of the word, is something that doms should also adhere to.

As far as slave duties are concerned: every slave has many and again much of these are very personal requirements, usually tailored to that specific relationship and the desires of her particular dominant. Nothing wrong with that. In fact protocol and rituals are fun and a major enhancement to your scenes and relationship. Duties especially make things “more realistic”.

One general piece of advise about duties first: if you are a dominant, keep it down on the number of duties and be realistic. It is much more effective to install one or two duties that can indeed be sustained to perfection, instead of coming up with a pages-thick rule book that is neither going to work, nor will you be able to check up on them all.

A rule not paid attention to, is no rule and de facto only counter productive.

 

The above article is a reprint from our information/educational site Kink Culture.
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