For various reasons anal play or sex – yes, there is a difference – (a.k.a. Greek sex) appeals to many people who are into erotic power exchange. Although personal motivations may vary, the need for the sub to actively cooperate as well as the fact that many women have a mental barrier here are the most common factors for this subject’s popularity. Anal play is certainly not without risks, so you should be very aware of what you are doing. When you understand and know how to minimize them, the risks are minimal.

The first thing to be aware of every time you enter into it is that anal contact is HIV-risk number 1. If you are playing with a partner you do not know, just met, or are having a one night stand with – and possibly most important: if you have a bisexual partner – take all precautions necessary. Maybe you have heard this before but the time, required for HIV to be discovered (varies from person to person) is seven years. In other words, having known each other for three months is no guarantee for protection.

Resource: One of the best books around on the subject of anal play, sex and fisting is “Anal Pleasure and Health” by Jack Morin Ph.D., published by Down There Press, P.O. Box 2086, Burlingame CA 94011, USA, ISBN 0-940208-083.

The Shame Factor

Anal play is nothing to be ashamed of although many, many people are. We started it in our earliest childhood. In fact it is generally acknowledged as the first sexually related exploration every baby does and even some fetuses do it prior to birth. Let’s face it, the odor of plain shit – but called “musk” – is used in almost every perfume and even more so in male cosmetics because it is generally known as sexually appealing. For you animal lovers out there: the scent is derived from the musk plant, not the deer. Any biologist will explain that in all mammals, the genitals and the anus were deliberately placed close together, simply because the smell of the one points the way to the other. So, if you like it, or feel attracted to it, there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.

Plus, the anus is an erogenous zone by itself, whether you like it or not. Stimulating it will cause sexual arousal and feeling somebody touching and massaging your vagina and uterus “from the outside” (which is one of the effects) is an amazing sensation for the sub.

Kinsey – yes, the sexologist that is best known for his extensive research of the sexual behavior of both men and women – has said it as follows: “The contractions of the buttocks reflect, more than any one factor, the development of the tensions involved in erotic arousal.” The buttock muscles are among the strongest in the human body and they come into play during almost any form of sexual intercourse and even masturbation – especially for women. Some women even masturbate just by contracting and relaxing muscles and these include the “back door”. In the event you thought anal sexual attraction is just for a few, Kinsey – in his extensive research – found that fifty (!) percent of both men and women had had some experience with anal stimulation or anal intercourse. More recent research in the USA shows that some ten percent of the heterosexual couples regularly have anal intercourse.

Juicy Detail:The anal and vaginal region and the penis share the same nerve roots and this is the physiological explanation for the sexual attraction of the anus. And – coming back to erotic power exchange – anal play and intercourse to many has strong connotations with terms of dominance and submission.

Forms of play

Penis/anal penetration ♥ For the dom the main advantage of penetrating the anus with his penis is that the anus is not only very narrow, but also the circular muscle around it is much stronger. As a result he will feel much more sensation, compared to penetrating the relatively soft and receptive vagina. The vaginal contractions he feels only during the female orgasm is what he feels constantly while penetrating the anus.

To the majority of subs the attraction is in two things: first of all “giving” this to her dom and secondly the stimulation of the “outside of the vagina”.

Fingerplay and fisting ♥ Stimulating the anus with your fingers, although attractive to the sub and when done carefully, causes very relaxing feelings, is mainly foreplay to something else: either penis penetration or anal fisting. If anal play is new to the sub, she may have trouble relaxing the anal sphincter muscle. To break through this mostly mental block, she may require gentle massage and training to open up.

Toys ♥ Toys are mainly used as devices to train the anus for further play. Please only use specially designed toys (like butt plugs) for this purpose and not, for example, vibrators, to avoid all sorts of unwanted mishaps. Apart from this, vibrators and dildos are usually too stiff for the anus. Toys for anal play should be very flexible, made from latex or silicone (which is a different type of silicone than used for plastic breast surgery)

Rimming ♥ Rimming is stimulating the anus with your tongue. The technique can be compared to oral stimulation of the vagina.

Enemas ♥ An enema is technique where (usually) fluid is brought into the bowels to make them to expel their content. This may be used for various purposes – cleaning before fisting, as a punishment, humiliation, training and sexual arousal, all of course depending on your own preferences.
 
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