The Babylonic Waterfall of Tongues (Continued)

Now does this mean the slave is being treated like a dog? It is a question often asked and the answer is simple: does one, who owns a horse, condition it to fetch the owner’s shoes or guard the property? No, of course not. Does one train a dog to catch mice? Or a cat to produce milk? In that same way a slave owner “owns” a human being and will treat it as such. But that human being is still property, just like the dog, the cat, the horse or the cow. A cow does not ask to be used as a milk factory – it simply is because humans want it to be one. A human slave does not ask to be a slave, he or she is one because the owner wants it to be and the slaves feels he or she IS one by nature. Not just “a” slave, but the slave the owner wants it to be – in every aspect.

A TPE slave is one because he or she knows (s)he was born to be one. And just like a woman cannot negotiate aspects of her womanhood or a caucasian cannot be black or yellow for a day or two during the week a TPE slave cannot be anything else but him or herself: a slave without concessions. In that same way a TPE owner is indeed an owner.

The Rights of the Slave

Whenever discussing TPE people fall over each other trying to explain that it is unsafe, unhealthy or plain ridiculous for a slave to have no rights. Well, that is where another major misconception is. Of course a human slave, in this day and age, has rights.

But the fact of the matter is that a TPE owner will WANT his or her slave(s) to flourish, develop. grow, be healthy and happy. In simple terms: a dead slave is of no use. Neither is an unhappy slave or one that does not feel loved, cared for, cherished and protected. Not being a good, responsible owner is simply counterproductive, especially since TPE requires lots and lots of emotional investments and even more time spent to work on the relationship than probably any other relationship and that goes for owner and slave alike.

TPE is NOT “my way or the highway”, but instead it is actually a fair and square (and very clear) deal from day one. Both owner and slave have the all-important option to NOT enter into the TPE relationship. And both have the option to leave the relationship (which will – as time progresses – due to the nature of the relationship indeed become less and less of an option to the slave). A TPE-relationship is a consensual one, albeit that the consequences of entering into one are huge and serious. But let’s face it – having kids is just as huge a consequence of a relationship and quite a few people do not even think about these!

TPE is about facing the consequences of your desires, wants, needs and maybe even your personality. Yes that is huge, yes that is tough but ….. that’s life. If you don’t want it, can’t handle it or if you feel it is not a good idea for you personally: don’t do it!. Just don’t judge the people who do.

It is Anything BUT Moonlight and Roses

Unfortunately many have rather poetic assumptions about TPE. “The ultimate sacrifice for my Master” is one of them. “I want to be (an) O” is another. If these are your motives, DON’T even think about TPE. Total Power Exchange (if it works) is highly rewarding and one of the most intense forms of BDSM. Yes it does require a certain (probably high) level of spirituality. But first and foremost it requires a realistic perspective and a lot of work.

TPE is a relationship that requires a lot of openness, honesty, faith, trust, communication and hard work. It requires two (or more) people able to manage a relationship that revolves around change. If you are not open to personal change (sometimes quite dramatically) but instead are looking for certainty, solid footholds and a natural rhythm in your life, you’re simply not TPE-material. Owners and slaves in a TPE relation often (and frequently) go through dramatic changes and you have to be able to handle that.

A slave in a TPE relationship will almost always be required to grow to perfection (perfection as in what the owner considers to be perfection). That, by definition, means personal growth, development and change. At the same time the owner will have to adjust to the slave – in every aspect. Yes, to the slave the owner and his/her wants, needs and desires are the main priority in life. But at the same time – since the slave becomes increasingly vulnerable in many aspects – the owners’ responsibilities grow at the same rate.

TPE is Inter-dependency

Within a TPE relationship the slave is likely to become increasingly dependent on the owner. Emotionally, economically and socially. This means – as time progresses – the slave will have lesser and lesser options to leave the relationship without severe difficulties and repercussions. That is exactly what owner and slave are after.

However, due to the all-important time-factor (building a true TPE-relationship takes many, many years) the owner will invest a very substantial part of his/her life and energy in the slave(s). As a result, the owner, albeit in another way, also – and increasingly – loses options. Besides – owner and slave(s) will eventually become one entity and that is a situation that – to both – is not easy to disentangle.

De facto one cannot be without the other and owner and slave in a TPE relationship are inter-dependent.

 

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