Welcome to our “under 25″ page. Why does a page like this exist? Well, because young adults have different questions when it comes to BDSM, D/s, S&M. erotic power exchange or whatever you want to call it. If you’re over 25, you’re welcome here as well, but don’t expect to find that “young BDSM chick” here. Because that’s not what these pages are about.
What are these pages about?
Being young and identifying or exploring erotic power exchange (BDSM) emotions is usually different from the situation when this happens at an older age. You may have other wants and needs, coming out (talking about it) is more difficult – especially talking to parents or friends – and all this largely interferes with the more general exploration of your own sexuality.
A few notes on age and the law
The Internet is still very much a medium developed and crowded by people from the United States. For this reason you will find disclaimers on almost all sites stating that you have to be either 18 or 21 (depending on where in the USA you are) to be allowed to view the information on that particular site. These age restrictions are different in many other countries. Plus, different countries, and different states in the USA have very different opinions on what “adult” information exactly is. In fact, “adult” is mostly the politically correct word for pornography.
The situation in the USA is blurry at best. Hardly anyone can tell you what exactly is legal and what is not when it comes to sexuality in your particular area. As a result, it is almost impossible to give you any good advice about whether or not even viewing these pages is legal, let alone undertaking erotic power exchange activities. However, a good rule of thumb to go by is this: sexual activities between consenting adults are not illegal, provided you keep them private and the “interests of third parties” (such as children) are not involved. In some areas this means that if you have children you may open yourself up to problems if you enter into erotic power exchange activities even in your own bedroom with your own partner.
In other countries the situation is quite different. In continental Europe for example it usually is no problem at all for you to view pages that offer information – even if it’s sexually related information. In South America on the other hand anything in the erotic power exchange area is considered illegal at any age. In Australia and New Zealand there is no problem reading these pages if you are over 21, and most Asian countries actually could not care less as long as you are over 16. (Note: recent changes in Australian laws means you should look into this yourself if you live there.)
Our view on things is this. You have to be able to understand the things we’re talking about here. If you don’t understand the full extent of the content of these pages, you’re likely to draw the wrong conclusions. About yourself as well as about erotic power exchange. Since the majority of the information available here is written with adults in mind, we consider the site an adult site.
Experimenting and uncertainty
Experimenting with your own sexuality is normal. In fact, almost everyone does this at some stage and such experiments may encompass almost anything, including finding out about your own gender and erotic power exchange. So, are you crazy tieing yourself to a bedpost, placing clothespins on your nipples and masturbating or maybe even whipping yourself? No, absolutely not! That’s the way most people have found out about their erotic power exchange emotions. Like others who’ll read the same passage in some book over and over again, who’ll carry some picture in their wallet, or like those who cannot get enough of a particular scene in a movie or a video clip.
It’s these experiments, unidentified desires and often fears that’ll make many feel uncertain. It’s important to understand that this is an experimental stage. All this does not mean your erotic power exchange emotions are here to stay. They may be a temporary fascination, a kick or just part of the entire experimental phase. Or they may stay and become important in your life. Who is to say?
The important thing is that you shouldn’t be afraid to go with the flow. Let your emotions and feelings guide you. If they’re important to you, they’ll find their place, even though that may take quite a while. Talk to others. You have a ten to one chance your friends have done the same thing or are still doing it. Find information and try to understand yourself. And by all means do NOT let yourself get painted into a corner. Erotic power exchange emotions take time to evolve. You may for example feel submissive now and eventually turn into a dominant. Or the other way around. Or you may eventually be either, depending on the situation and your future partner. Things that are important now may fade later and other things may surface. Just enjoy the way you’re feeling now. And DO experiment and explore.
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