Erotic power exchange is any situation where partners, of their own free will and choice, actively and willfully incorporate the power element in their lovemaking (and usually for a great deal in their relationship). Erotic power exchange is best known as either BDSM, S&M, D/s or sadomasochism, but these terms are all too limited, incorrect and too often confused with stereotypes, which is why we like to call it Erotic Power Exchange (EPE).
Erotic power exchange can take any shape or form within a relationship. From little things like blindfolding your partner when making love to anything like 24 hours a day, 7 days a week dedication or branding.
The shape and form it takes totally depends upon the fantasies, situation and boundaries of the partners involved. As long as it is informed consensual, safe, sane and voluntary it is called erotic power exchange. If any or all of these four elements are missing, it is called abuse.
Next, erotic power exchange requires a specific environment. Call it a biosphere, if you like. What it requires is a very sound, honest and sincere relationship, intense and open communication, trust, a lot of mutual understanding, an open mind, lots of love and care and a fair bit of creativity.
People will often ask: what's wrong with straight sex? Why add things like power exchange. Well, there's nothing wrong with straight sex. But There are the people that identify the power element, that exists in every relationship, and start to work with it, play with it, explore and experiment.
Giving away power to your partner can be an immense erotic sensation. Being tied up, relatively helpless and being launched by your partner into your own fantasies and dreams - some submissives call that sub space - can be thrilling, relaxing and revealing at the same time. No, the people that do it don't need it to have an orgasm, but yes, they do need the power element to be present and used in their relationship.
Erotic power exchange is a very individual, personal experience. That is why it is very hard to describe what it is exactly.
To many people erotic power exchange is not just about sex, but a lifestyle. Most people that do it will recognize it as something very personal, something very much belonging to themselves. To many it is a way to express themselves.
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