~~ We don’t intend to scare you away from incidental or first contacts. On the contrary. However, it’s certainly wise to be a little careful with your first meetings.. ~~ For a first contact the following guidelines are what many experienced people involved in epe/bdsm suggest. Most are common sense – but that’s exactly the […]

Vaginal fisting (or fist-fucking), means inserting one entire hand into the vagina. This – if done correctly – will usually result in a very violent orgasm, often combined with female ejaculation. The fisting is usually done by the partner but occasionally women do it themselves. The Nonsense Regardless what others may tell you, fisting – […]

Sorry Manners: Civility and Incivility in the Scene by Chris M (Black Rose) and Lady Medora (NOPE) Part I [copyrighted by the authors, used with permission] One of the most grave and inexplicable problems facing our community in general is the continued presence of downright rudeness. It takes many forms: gossip, arrogance, slander, ingratitude, interpersonal […]

Female Ejaculation Few men know about it, more women do but most either do not know what to do with it or feel ashamed about it: female ejaculation. Not all women can do it and the way they do (and the amount of fluid they produce) may be very different. The amount of fluid may […]

Piercings aren’t just done to ears. People have their nipples, navels, eyebrows, clitoris hoods, penises, labia, and other body parts pierced, and bits of metal permanently in the piercings. These are the bare facts, but this practice, it turns out, has a lot to do with S&M. Getting a piercing, first of all, is an […]

A great deal can also be done with female genitalia. Some women love having clothespins on their pussy lips; some love light whipping on their outer labia, or even their clitoris. Sometimes body piercings can be used for bondage; labia piercings can hold a pussy open very delightfully, or clit hood piercings can be tied […]

 What If I Don’t Want To Do Any Of This Kinky/BDSM Stuff? Below is a question one of our readers asked and our answers to it. It’s a question we’re probably asked at least once a week. The situation is one that’s not uncommon when it comes to erotic power exchange: one of the partners […]

© Lesbian and Gay New York – September 10th, 1999 article by Susan Wright I’m an s/m activist. Whenever I say that, people are sometimes amused, occasionally accepting, and most often shocked and amazed. “You? How can you do sadomasochism?” they ask. They wonder why anyone would admit they’re into s/m, much less be an […]