First And Incidental Contacts ~ Tips For Safer First Meetings ~~ We don’t intend to scare you away from incidental or first contacts. On the contrary. However, it’s certainly wise to be a little careful with your first meetings.. ~~ For a first contact the following guidelines are what many experienced people involved in epe/bdsm […]

© San Francisco Bay Guardian – September 8th, 1999 article by Danya Ruttenberg ~~ S.F. sex radicals have created a city where porn is ubiquitous and dominatrix stories are a dime a dozen. Now more than ever, they’re working in a whole different kind of taboo zone: the murky realm of human emotion. ~~ This […]

It’s Not All About The Physical ~~ Not everyone is looking for love. But even if you’re just looking for a series of purely physical encounters it’s still worth understanding how the emotions can come into play in your scenes. ~~ Conditions precedent for most sustainable erotic power exchange relationships are love, mutual respect and […]

Knowledge & Attitude Are Important Here are some other useful tips for physical safety. These have much more to do with your attitude toward your partner(s) and toward erotic power exchange in general. Read some good books The more you read about erotic power exchange, the more you’ll understand about it and the safer you’ll […]

There are four key elements to bondage. They do not always come together in every session and they do not have to. That is up to the dominant’s plan and intentions. But it is important to understand them. Regardless the technique you use, these key elements (in random order) are: * Time * Helplessness * […]

Whipping  …Why Is It Such Fun? Why is whipping fun? One way of thinking about whipping is as another way of touching someone. People who are just getting into SM frequently play with spanking; it’s fun to be spanked! It’s a punishment, it’s a strong stimulus, it hurts very pleasurably. But if you’ve ever spanked […]

General Information And Safety Tips “C&B play” stands for cock & ball play. “Geniplay” stands for “genital play”. This is a subject that makes some men clutch their nuts and run in fear, and makes other men instantly erect and greedy for more. The male genitals are at once the most vulnerable and most sensitive […]

Spanking is one of the classics in erotic power exchange. The term spanking is usually used for anything that has to do with spanking the bottom. In general, no other parts of the body are involved. Purist spankers will only accept spanking as spanking when it is done by hand, but often the back of […]