What if I get too into SM? Sometimes people who are attracted by some aspects of SM worry that they will immediately go from enjoying spanking and light bondage to fisting and golden showers. Nothing could be further from the truth. SM is a blanket term for a huge variety of alternative ways to make […]

Interview with Ilona Paris, a counselor for people with alternative sexual lifestyles. by Wasteland Staff Writer “TB” How did you become interested in counseling people with alternative sexual lifestyles? I had a Masters in Counseling Psychology and was already working as a counselor when I got involved in the BDSM scene. When you see a […]

Coming out Coming out problems generally have three main causes, the first one being: the public taboo, that results in – fear of – rejection, stereotyping, stigmatization and prejudice. A second contributing cause in many cases is a system of sexual education that entirely ignores or sometimes even condemns alternative forms of eroticism and sexuality. […]

About Bondage, Domination, Sadism and Masochism (BDSM) HIV, the Internet and an increasing openness in society – influenced by better scientific knowledge and understanding of human sexuality as well as trends in pop-music, movies, art and literature – are presumed to be the main causes for the increasing interest in erotic power exchange (BDSM or […]

Each party, munch, gathering or BDSM venue usually has its own rules. However, there are quite a few general rules and not all of them are that obvious. So, here is the guide to attending public BDSM events. It will prevent you from making obvious and less obvious mistakes. Munches First of all, you have […]

Internet Protocol The Internet brings about its own formats and protocol (a.k.a. “netiquette”). Many mistakes are being made – most of which will result in flame wars. There is no need for that if you understand a few simple basics. Most of these will help you as well as protect you. So how do you […]

Can you provide a definition of TPE? It is of course next to impossible to provide exact definitions for any relationship, since relationships revolve around individual people, individual needs and individual circumstances. Having said that, TPE relationships do have certain common denominators. * First of all, in a TPE relationship the slave is subdued (as […]

People use cars for different reasons. Most use them (more or less) occasionally: to go to work, to do shopping, to visit grandma or to drop the kids off at school. Others, such as truck drivers, Formula 1 racers and taxi drivers make a profession out of driving a car. Let’s cross over to BDSM. […]