What Does The BDSM Emblem Mean? The BDSM emblem has no “obvious” symbolism because it was created to be enigmatic. To the vanilla observer who would be put off by BDSM, it’s merely an attractive piece of jewelry. Thus, we can wear it freely as a friendly salute, nod, and wink to other BDSMers we […]

How To Use One… One of the thrills of bdsm is that it can stretch your limitations. If you enjoy this sort of play, you can naturally find yourself trying more and more new things, accepting greater and greater levels of sensation, doing and feeling more than you’ve ever done or felt before. But the […]

Welcome to the safety guides section. The pages here will lead you through tips and tricks to go about erotic power exchange in a safe and consensual way. We will cover physical, technical and emotional safety as well as some of the basic concepts of consensual erotic power exchange. A lot of technical safety has […]

There is a widespread myth around on the Internet. One that you will often hear in erotic power exchange oriented discussion and newsgroups and on chatboxes. The credo is: “there are no SOPs in BDSM” (SOP = Standard Operating Procedures). That’s not only untrue, it’s also a very dangerous statement. Especially when it comes to […]

… and never the twain shall meet? …There is definitely a trend on the Internet – the constant discussion about which is better: a real life relationship or what is generally known as an on-line relationship; in other words people having some form of cyber erotic power exchange, which usually comes down to scening via […]

The Proverbial Chicken & Egg What came first? The common prejudice about erotic power exchange or the sometimes wrong charisma, erotic power exchange has? And is this charisma at least partially responsible for the prejudice? Without doubt one influences the other. On one hand we have the ineradicable social prejudice, based on misinformation (mainly by […]

Some accidents do happen… ~~ Sometimes mishaps do occur during a scene. But while there are many very scary stories around, in truth, almost none of those ever happened. Most are just tall tales – a new kind of urban legend. ~~ However, there are a few relatively common occurences that it’s good to be […]

When reading posts about erotic power exchange on the Internet, taking part in a chatroom or a discussion group, or reading some of the personal ads on various sites you may run into a lot of very specific Internet lingo. While the ones on the list below certainly aren’t all of them, they’ll give you […]