SAFE WORDS One unique aspect of BDSM is the creation of an agreement between dominant and submissive that the submissive will use a specific signal, usually a particular word, to signal that the play is becoming, or is already , too intense for them and that serious distress and/or damage is possible. BDSM folks usually […]

The Silent Alarm A silent alarm is a safety device used when two people who don’t know each other well meet for private play. You set up a silent alarm by telling someone you trust where you will be and with whom you will be playing. If you don’t send an “I’m safe” message by […]

Two Squeezes Means I’m OK Sometimes the dominant will want to check the submissive’s condition without asking a somewhat-mood-disturbing question like “Are you OK?” (After all, they’re “tormenting” the submissive.) Also, sometimes submissives “go under” so deeply that they have trouble speaking. As one put it, “It’s hard for me to swim far enough back […]

The male nipples – generally speaking – are much smaller than the female ones. However, do not underestimate their erotic capabilities, just because they are smaller. Many men do not even realize the capabilities of their own nipples and to many men incorporating them in your erotic power exchange play will be a sensational discovery. […]

Anal Play and Fisting roughly speaking, there are four different ways to bring the anus into sexual play: anal penis penetration (also known as “Greek sex”), anal fingering, penetration with buttplugs, rimming (stimulating the anal area with the tongue) and anal fisting. There is nothing wrong with having any form of anal stimulation, as long […]

The penis can be tied in various different ways and doing it can be a very powerful instrument. However, there are some things you need to know here. Safety Precautions No matter how appealing that may sound, it is impossible to stop the penis from “growing”. If it wants to swell it will and the […]

If there is one item that is central in the FemDom/malesub active play that – without doubt – is the male sex organ. In itself it opens a world of possibilities for fun play, psychological as well as physical and usually both. Let us concentrate for a while on CBT. There’s an old saying, “When […]