Like a martial art Shibari requires some preparation. However, in this case these preparations are the first steps on your stairway. First of all: you need time and you don’t want to be disturbed. Unplug or switch off your phone (or switch on the answering machine) and make it something special. An exotic, sensual adventure. […]

Before we start to explain about individual techniques and bondages, let’s take a moment to discuss a few basic physical techniques and aspects that may be very handy when you enter into Shibari. Other articles in this series will cover such techniques as safety, complementary play forms, meditation and mental aspects and such. Here we […]

For many, the image and feeling of being bound is frightening. Placing oneself in a state of being where all control may be lost usually is not what may be considered as pleasurable. Thoughts of prison, loss of freedom, vulnerability, and, for some, claustrophobia may be far to overwhelming to endure. Under what is termed […]

What’s “Negotiation” Mean? Plus How The Two Of These Work Together… SM has definite connotations of theater. The fact that you’re a submissive while you’re playing sexually does not mean you are a pushover in real life, nor does you’re a dominant while playing mean that you are an overbearing egotist. These are roles that […]

The psychological effects of Shibari are huge. Your partner will not only feel totally exposed and at your mercy, but she is also constantly and increasingly aroused by the erotic effects of the ropes. This can be absolutely great, but shameful at the same time because she cannot stop it and the excitement is just […]

Erotic power exchange is any situation where partners, of their own free will and choice, actively and willfully incorporate the power element in their lovemaking (and usually for a great deal in their relationship). Erotic power exchange is best known as either BDSM, S&M, D/s or sadomasochism, but these terms are all too limited, incorrect […]

There are several things, that will form a threat to the quality – hence safety – of your ropes, regardless if this is natural of synthetic rope. In general, natural rope is usually more vulnerable to threats, mentioned below.  Knots – not many people are aware of the fact that a knot will reduce the […]

There are many myths around rope, most importantly about “asanawa”. We also seem to run into a common mistranslation here. “Nawa” is an old Japanese word for rope (the modern word is “ropu”). “Asa” translates as either flax, linen or hemp. Flax seems to be a much more accurate translation. “Asanawa” is translated by many […]