Concept 3: Shared and equal responsibility Within a scene or even within a erotic power exchange relationship partners may choose to be unequal to each other, based on a free will and choice. This does not mean there is inequality of responsibility between the partners. Both partners share an equal responsibility towards themselves and each […]

The most important erotic power exchange concept is negotiation. Partners negotiate about their fantasies, feelings, needs, dreams, barriers and hidden desires. This is not the “if-I-give-this-I-get-that” type of negotiation. The objective is to exchange your feelings, barriers and fantasies in an open and honest way. Partners try to establish where they meet, how much common […]

Understanding about some elementary concepts of erotic power exchange is safety tip Number 1. If you understand negotiation, safe words and the difference between inequality and in equivalence you have taken the first steps on the safety ladder. But there is more to it. These concepts will also be your footholds in sometimes confusing times […]

The Babylonic Waterfall of Tongues (Continued) Now does this mean the slave is being treated like a dog? It is a question often asked and the answer is simple: does one, who owns a horse, condition it to fetch the owner’s shoes or guard the property? No, of course not. Does one train a dog […]

People use cars for different reasons. Most use them (more or less) occasionally: to go to work, to do shopping, to visit grandma or to drop the kids off at school. Others, such as truck drivers, Formula 1 racers and taxi drivers make a profession out of driving a car. Let’s cross over to BDSM. […]

So, what do you do? The most important thing to do is to stay calm. If you are the dominant, take care of your partner first. Offer the officer(s) a chair, accept that they will want to make sure you are not going to run away and ask them to wait a few minutes so […]

Hopefully it well never happen to you but it might. Your erotic power exchange activity – although that is a lot less likely than some people would like you to believe – may for some reason attract the attention of other people who, in their turn, will attract the attention of the police. We cannot […]

This compulsion to escape freedom turns us against ourselves. Some theorists believe this idea resurfaced very pervasively in the 1990s, with the new emphasis upon capitalism and corporate-driven greed and consumerism. Commodification of everything, including the body and leisure pursuits, led many to find plain old sex borning and led many “mainstream” people to explore […]