The Inside

The intestines are anything but straight. The rectum (the part just before the anal opening) ends in a sharp, ninety degree upward curve. This is why you cannot get all of your penis in. If you attempt to push past this turn, you will only cause tremendous pain, for both yourself and for your sub. When penetrating with your fingers or fist remember this turn is the second hurdle you have to take, which requires just as much attention, ease and patience as the anus itself. The upward turn has a second ring of muscle around it (which is what holds the feces inside) and this one needs to be relaxed as well.

Also, remember that whereas the vagina is literally a dead end, the intestines are not and this is the main reason to use only toys designed for this kind of play. They are designed in such a way that they cannot accidentally slip inside and disappear. Should this happen anyway, please do not hesitate to visit your doctor or the nearest emergency room. It may come out by itself, but there is no certainty here. Yes, if it happens it is embarrassing, but do remember that doctors and nurses have seen it all before and are only there to help you (which is what they will do) not to judge you.

The inside of the intestines has very delicate lining that is damaged easily, a good reason to wear gloves at all times. Fingernails can do a lot of damage but so can rough or unexpected movements.

Getting In and Out

Getting in takes time, especially the first times. Take all the time in the world. If you fail the first time, that is not a problem. In fact it is normal. Simply try again later or another time. Go slow and be careful. The anus, when massaged carefully, gently and long enough, will open up itself and is usually capable of doing very unexpected things.

The trick is to relax, so be sure to put your sub into a comfortable position. Do it step by step. Get one finger in first, then slowly and gently add the next one and maybe after a while another one. If you want to penetrate with your penis, now is the time to do so.

Getting out is done in the same careful way. Go slow, even if the anus tries to push you out.

There is a very good chance your sub will need to visit the bathroom immediately after a session. If she doesn’t, ask her gently and even accompany or encourage her to do so. Even if she doesn’t “have to”, being open about it will at least take the tension away and help her relax.

After Care and Support

Most subs, especially when inexperienced in this area, will need lots and lots of support, love, care and tenderness, before, during and after a session. Remember that most subs need to break through a huge mental barrier and that barrier will not be gone after the first time. It takes quite a while to get over the feeling of shame. Communication is paramount here.

Another very practical thing to remember – but it makes a great form of after care as well – is that anal play with many people will stimulate the digestive process. In other words, your sub may very well be hungry afterwards. Think ahead and make sure you have a bite to eat readily available (which is good advice after most scenes, as the stress and fatigue of a session will make her hungry). Sweets, i.e. sugar, will help her regain some energy quickly and be sure to offer her something to drink as well. Both emotions and stress have a draining and dehydrating effect.

If you let her drink an isotonic drink first (like Gatorade) she will quickly regain her energy. This will also help prevent another thing. If you are planning to have an alcoholic drink later, remember that after a scene her body will absorb any liquid like a sponge and if it is has alcohol will get her very drunk. The isotonic drink will prevent this from happening.

Messy

Anal play is a bit messy. It doesn’t have to be really bad though and most of the time the main mess is the result of the massive use of lubricant. Experienced people will usually cover the bed with lots of towels anyway, but it may be a good idea to use special blankets of even some plastic foil so cleaning up is easy, hygienic and quick.

Another good trick is to always have a bowl of lukewarm water readily available. This will enable the dom to wash his hands immediately after play or in between sessions (use a new pair of gloves when penetrating again). Also, more experienced people will change gloves before cleaning up the mess, which prevents you from accidentally making things worse than they already are.

For various reasons aroma therapy oil will help dramatically (try “lilies of the valley”!!). Not only will these oils help create a better – more relaxing – atmosphere, but a more intense scent will also help to deal with the inevitable odor, that accompanies anal play.
 
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