Many parents have questions about how and when to inform their children about their erotic power exchange emotions. That sometimes may not be an easy thing to do. Here are a few handy guidelines, that may help you – parent – to deal with this problem. We have no intention to provide you with a ten easy steps program, since every individual situation is different. We can, however, try and help you with some hints and tips that may make the problem easier to tackle.

A few remarks first:

Never perform any erotic power exchange activity in front of minors, no matter how minor the activity or how “old” the minor. First of all that is usually illegal, secondly it is none of their business, thirdly it is nonconsensual behavior and finally, you may do some serious psychological/educational harm.

Contrary to what you may feel – most children are not really interested in their parents.

Sex life

In fact, most children don’t want to know about it. Think about what you – parent – would have felt like had you been told by your father what – and more importantly how – he did do IT with your mother. Un easing thought, isn’t it? Well, ten to one your children feel the same about your sex life. In most cases this is a situation where the parents want to tell the children, NOT the children wanting to know. You do want to consider your options. If there is no need to know, if they don?t have questions, there is no reason for you to tell.

One thing to firmly warn about at this point are ulterior motives by parents. If you are planning to tell your children about your inclination because you don?t want them to be alarmed when mommy screams during a spanking your motives are DEFINITELY WRONG! Children – no matter at what age – are not supposed to hear their mother cry out in pain, especially not because of the fact daddy is giving her an erotic spanking. Children do not see and understand the differences between erotic power exchange and punishment and they WILL – no matter what you tell them – interpret it as punishment or “at best” strange parental behavior.

Any information/education about erotic power exchange or any other alternative lifestyle should be embedded in a total program for sexual education (more about this in a minute).

Sexual education

General sexual education is something responsible parents should get themselves involved in at a very early stage. The general opinion of the experts is that a tolerant, responsible, broad sexual education should be incorporated in the general upbringing in a natural way. I.e. bring things up when the child is up to it. When it starts asking questions about where babies come from, that is the time to start general sexual education and not the “stork” or “your daddy will tell you later” kind of stuff. A natural and neutral format for sexual education, incorporated in the total education, is widely recommended by experts. By making it a normal part of life and a normal part of the education – as opposed to turning it into an “event” – children will grow up with a more natural opinion on sexuality and will also learn to be tolerant towards those, who may have preferences outside the mainstream.

And yes, you – parent – will have to do it. No reason to leave this to school programs. You as a parent are in the front line here and whatever school or social institution will do later can only be complementary to the education the parents did themselves. It cannot replace the parental responsibility.

There is a lot more to sexual education than “birds and bees” or the plain technical stuff. It is also about attitude towards each other, negotiating your desires, understanding and tolerating others that may not share your emotions, sexually transmitted diseases, birth control, norms and values, self-protection, understanding your own body and desires and responsible sexual behavior. In fact, the technical stuff comes last.

Embedding tolerance and understanding towards non-mainstream sexual activity is paramount if you want to give yourself any chance to explain about alternative lifestyles at a later stage. Embedding this is NOT the same as selling it. Your best bet is to do this just as natural as you explain the many different flavors of ice-cream, so to speak.

To Be Continued Next Week…

The above article is a reprint from our information/educational site Kink Culture.
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