If there is one item that is central in the FemDom/malesub active play that – without doubt – is the male sex organ. In itself it opens a world of possibilities for fun play, psychological as well as physical and usually both. Let us concentrate for a while on CBT. There’s an old saying, “When you have him by his balls, his heart and mind will follow.” Well, nothing is more true in an erotic power exchange context.
The Male Genitals
The is a widely spread legend that not only the penis erects, but that the male testicles (balls) will become heavier as they “fill” with semen. That is not true, at least not in the literal sense of the word. However, to the man himself it often indeed feels like that. That is a result of the effects of skin stretching. Skin covers all parts of the male genitals. The more this skin is stretched the more sensitive it becomes, as nerve endings are pushed closer to the surface; thus the skin is more sensitive on an erect penis than on a flaccid one. The skin of the scrotal sac is thicker and is capable of great stretching and becomes even more sensitive when stretched. That is when the man becomes aware of the weight of his balls, hence they suddenly feel heavier. The skin of the cockhead, or glans, is very thin, tightly attached to the underlying tissues, and is extremely sensitive. For play it should not even be thought of as skin but as an integral part of the cockhead. It is important to be aware of the differences in sensitivity between a flaccid and an erect penis. Almost every action during active play – and of course the “things” happening in the mind – will cause the penis to swell and become increasingly sensitive. Hence what may be not painful in the beginning may become very painful (or intense) as play progresses. hence, when it comes to CBT, the trick is to downgrade your impulses instead of upgrading. The penis will “upgrade” whatever it is you are doing all by itself. The experienced FemDom will be looking for exactly that – let the penis (and the mind) do the work for you.
The penis consists of four components: First, the skin. Second is a pair of spongy tissue reservoirs on either side, called the corpora cavernosa. These run the length of the penis, beginning under the pubic bone well inside the body, and extending to the base of the glans. These are the main hydraulic system of the penis and are the organs that cause the penis to swell. When empty the penis is soft and flaccid. When filled with blood, they cause the cock to grow longer and more rigid. What feels as muscle tissue on the sides in fact are these two swelling organs. Holding the penis firmly (and a lot of other techniques we will come to talk about) will almost automatically cause a swelling reflex.
The third important component is the cockhead, or glans. This is the tip of the penis and consists primarily of spongy tissue, the corpus spongiosum, which is also erectile. The surface of the glans is covered with very thin, very sensitive skin. The ridge at the base of the glans is the corona, and it is the most sensitive part of the cockhead in most men. At the tip of the glans is the urinary meatus, the opening from the urethra.
The urethra is the fourth component of the penis. It is the duct that empties both urine and semen to the exterior. It runs along the underside of the shaft, surrounded by a tube of the same corpus spongiosum as in the glans.
The main contents of the scrotal sac are the testicles. These are a pair if bean shaped capsules of glandular tissue. The outer covering of each testis is a very tough fibrous capsule. The interior is a soft glandular material in which sperm are produced. They are very well equipped with pressure sensing nerves – nerves which interpret pressure on the balls, any squeezing or pressing or striking, as extreme pain. If you feel each testicle carefully you will be able to detect a much softer, fleshy ridge along one side of each ball and extending up to form a lump on the top of each testicle. This is the epididymis and consists of the tubules that drain the sperm from the testicle. Each testicle hangs at the end of a spermatic cord that attaches to the epididymis at the top of each testicle. The spermatic cord is largely dense, elastic connective tissue that draws the testes up close to the body as a response to cold or fear and suspends them well away from the body when warm (because normal human body temperature is high enough to kill developing sperm.)
The scrotum sac – or actually the testicles – are extremely sensitive and should be handled with care. There is a lot you can do with them, provided it is done skillfully and carefully. An important thing to remember is that men – after having had a vasectomy – may have been left with tiny – very sensitive – internal scars. Squeezing these will cause acute nausea with some men and is extremely painful. It is a good idea to inform yourself about that to avoid unintentional discomfort and an abrupt end of the fun. You will find these scars on either side of the scrotum. Since they are internal you can not see them but you can usually feel them as very tiny little “pinheads”.
Ok, so much for the biology lesson, let’s concentrate on some fun….
The Cockring
If there is one fun (and cheap) toy you should get yourself, it is a cockring. A cockring is placed at the scrotum base, strapping both penis and scrotum bag. There all sorts of them: leather, steel, latex, plastic clip on ones, but a plain and simple soft piece of rope will do as well. There is little harm you can do here and a tight cockring will not harm anything and can be worn for many hours, provided it is comfortable to wear of course. What a cockring will do is that it prolongs the male erection considerbaly (in duration that is, not in length of the penis) and it will hold back the ejaculation. That increases the fun for both and reduces the risk of an early ejaculation. Hence it is more fun for both and especially for the FemDom looking for her own pleasure.
The cockring also opens up all sorts of other fun, like attaching a piece of rope or chain to it and leading your partner around by it (no doubt he will follow instantly with very little or no hesitation, or tie his penis to a ring or post, which will leave him pretty much helpless, with a long-lasting erection and no possibility to relief himself.
Your Nails
Another real fun item every FemDom has readily available are her nails. If you want his full and undivided attention, carefully plant your nails just under the corona an gently pull. You can be sure he’ll go anywhere you want him to go. The same will happen wen you dig your nails in the back of the scrotum sac.
Raking your nails over the sides of the erect penis or the sac will also produce often very intense responses and of course your teeth will produce exactly the same effect.
Article Courtesy of The Powerotics Foundation