A controversial, yet much talked about issue is watersports, also known as golden showers. In other words play that involves urine in any way. In this section you will find information on this subject, on what it is, the various different forms as well as health-issues and more. You can click on one of the links below or start at the first one and browse this section.
The Complete Guide To Watersports
What are we talking about?
“Watersports” is a euphemism for the use of urine in an erotic setting. In more medical terms, the phenomena is known as urolagnia (lust for urine) or urophilia. Pornography – in its constant urge to oversimplify eroticism and sexual behavior with simple but generally useless one-liners – usually describes it as “pissex”. There are various forms and very different cultural connotations when it comes to watersports. We will concentrate on both the intimacy many people feel when it comes to this subject and, of course, on the power dynamics, watersports can have. In itself watersports is not an erotic play form restricted to erotic power exchange. Just like for example cross-dressing, gender bending and various fetishes, it is a “borrowed” kink used to express power dynamics when placed in an EPE setting. Peeing in the shower
Be honest with yourself. How long has it been since you urinated in the shower or bath (or while swimming)? Chances are – if you are really honest to yourself – it has been less than a month (maybe even yesterday, or just this morning) for many and less than a few month ago for even more. More importantly: why did you do it? Was it too much trouble to step out of the bath for a quick pee? Or couldn’t you really hold it any longer? That to most people is the politically correct excuse. But, whenever you are in a bath or shower the nearest toilet usually isn’t that far away. In fact, you probably only had to turn around and take one or two steps to pee in the toilet. But you didn’t. And why not?
It the above does not appeal to you, let’s ask another question. Did you ever have an almost orgasmic sensation when peeing? Didn’t that feel just as good or maybe even better? Why do you think so many people make the most interesting sounds on the toilet when urinating? Sighs of relief, sighs of relaxation.
Well, there is your answer: sometimes it just feels good just to let go and – in the event of doing it under the shower – not having to worry about finding finding a suitable receptacle or undoing clothing and just to close your eyes and feeling the urine flow through the same organs you use for lovemaking feels even better.
And about swimming? Are you really going to tell yourself you have never ever been in the sea, a lake, river or maybe even a swimming pool and never ever at least felt the urge to simply let go and when you did, did you experience the slight tingling sensation at the same time carefully looking around, making sure nobody would see you? And are you sure you do not see the resemblance to masturbating in a semi-public area, or making love together in a place where you might be spotted by others (like the backseat of your car, in the park at night, on the beach or standing waist-high in the ocean)? Familiar feeling, isn’t it? And very remarkable similarities?
Feeling ashamed already? Maybe blushing? That’s nothing new. Watersports is a taboo. But then again, so is erotic power exchange in many ways. So is anal sex to many people. Or fisting, or … well, you name it.
So if there is at least an erotic/sexual connotation to peeing – not always of course but sometimes – is it really that strange to want to share this is some way with your partner? Mind you, you don’t have to rush of and start peeing on each other. That is not what this is about. You can do it, of course, but you don’t HAVE to. Like in all other aspects of erotic power exchange, many different roads lead to Rome. There are all sorts of ways and techniques to go about this. Like simply watching each other, or talking about it, or using her urge to urinate but not (yet) allowing her to relieve herself. Or telling her to do it is a semi-public place, like behind the bushes in the park or wherever. All of that is watersports. Depending on the setting it can either be exciting, slightly humiliating, embarrassing or extremely erotic.
Our limited way to express ourselves
Throughout the ages the human race has always had a problem with talking about the organs that we use for various different things. Our hands can work, caress, hit, squeeze and even kill. Still, we call them hands and do not feel ashamed to talk about them. We do not cover them (unless they are at risk of freezing of course). Feet can walk, run, kick and make you very rich if you are a football player, for example. Regardless the purpose we use them for, we still call them feet. Ever since we learned to think and as civilization progressed, one set of organs somehow has become increasingly difficult to talk about: the ones that are amongst the most basic and important ones when it comes to making sure mankind will be there in the next generation as well: the penis and vagina.
Our genitals (sex organs) have three different but very important functions: reproduction, discharge of restproducts from our internal chemical plant called metabolism and fun (intentionally meant as stress relief). Ergo – we are talking multi-purpose organs here and it is not a coinsidence these functions are combined in one and the same organ. It is not only handy, the combination is biologically speaking intentional. By making the discharge process a relatively pleasant experience it is simply easier to discharge and hence a big incentive to keep the process going.
Society has been enormoulsy effective in trying to turn these three very fundamental as well as useful and necessary processes into something people should feel ashamed about. It is seen as dirty. Well, here is some news for you. About ninety percent what you eat every day contains residues of plain and simple shit. You don’t believe that? Here we go: vegetables grow thanks to, amongst other things, fertilizers. That can be something we have a nice euphemism for: natural fertilizer: that is is plain and simple bullshit (in the most literal sense of the word). “Artificial” fertilizer (“chemical fertilizer”) may also very well be shit. It is called guana and is nothing else but the excrement that millions of seagulls and other birds drop on South American cliffs every day. Bird droppings as you may know, are a bit different from human excrements in that they are both “products” in one. Want more and maybe a bit more direct? Do you like liver? The liver is the pre-production organ for urine. And what do you think is responsible for the specific taste of steak and kidney pie? Right. Urine. Plain and simple urine. Some medicine – especially hormones that improve female fertilty – are derived from human urine (more specifically, the urine of pregnant women). So if you already eat it in some form anyway, why be so damn ashamed about your own “product” as well as the emotions and the nice physical sensations that go with it. Doesn’t really make sense, does it?
The human race is extremely limited in expressing itself when it comes to the use of these important organs and the “products” the produce. That limitation has lead to probably an entire dictionary of words and expressions that all only have one and the same purpose: try and hide the principal functions. The penis has a variety of names, some of which are extremely humorous, such as the still remaining European habit to call a penis a “sword” and the vagina a “sheath” (as if these organs were meant to kill instead of create), not to mention the creativity especially mothers display when it comes to finding words for what their little babies do in their diapers. It is exactly this idiocy that forms the basic imprint for the shame people will experience later when it comes to talking about some of their very basic physical functions. Americans for example very often call a toilet “the bathroom”, regardless of the fact that there is hardly ever a bath or shower in sight. In general, this idiocy goes as far as the simple indication of what gender should be in what room (“ladies” and “gents”). Nobody asks the question “a ladies’ what?”
A few notes on culture
Different people have different connotations with watersports. It is important to find these out through good and intense communication. Like for example anal sex, watersports is one of these areas where very intense emotions come into play. Shame and desire, for example, may fight intensely for the first place on the emotional top ten. Let us give you an indication of the different connotations people may have. This is not a complete listing, just an overview to give you an idea of the things, people may or may not consider important.
The Fountain
One of the common connotations is generally spoken about in terms of a fountain. The idea is that urine is filtered from the blood and hence contains the fluids and leftover nutrients from all parts of the body, “the sweat of the soul” as some like to call it. In this light it is seen as gift of yourself to your partner.
Embarrassment
Especially having to urinate with your partner looking on, or maybe even “inspecting” may feel embarrassing. But, it is just as important to understand that even having to talk about the fantasy or the feelings may be an embarrassment. Embarrassment may be improved by, for example, letting your partner wait and maybe ask or beg for relief. Having to wrestle with the need to relief but not being allowed can be a very intense form of play.
Power
To some doms, urinating on the body of his sub can be an immense power kick (although other activities will also produce this kick, as well) and they may experience feelings as described in “The Fountain”.
Health Aspects
The question that always comes up first in any discussion about watersports is: isn’t it unhealthy. Or isn’t it dirty? Dirty of course a personal qualification that varies from person to person. The standard answer to the health-question is: in principle urine is not hazardous to your health, provided it comes from a completely healthy body and certain precautions are taken.
Urine is mostly water. Besides that, it contains all sorts of mainly leftovers of nutrients that your body does not need (at that time). In general these are the following:
- Soluble minerals, excess quantities of nutrients, predominantly salt and some some magnesium, calcium, potassium, and phosphate.
- Nitrogenous material, primarily urea.
- Creatinine, a complex compound which contributes heavily to both the color and odor of the urine.
- Uric acid and ammonia. These two components are toxic, but not in the very small quantities they are present in urine. Ammonia also is an important component of the specific urine odor.
- Water-soluble elements and compounds, again excess quantities of your bodies need at that time. These may be vitamins, like C and B-complex and other vitamins or food-additives you have taken in, present in excess quantities.
- Food components your body simply does not need such as natural or artificial coloring and flavoring agents, as well as aspartame (excess quantities of products like Sweet & Low or Nutrasweet – the more diet or low calorie products you eat or drink the, the more will be there).
Degradation products of food compounds , such as methylthiol. - Toxins that you consumed earlier, or their degradation products. The may be things like alcohol, caffeine and (important to remember) recreational drugs.
- Blood protein in small quantities.
- Dead cells from your bladder and urethra linings.
- Semen, always available in male urine, although in higher quantities after sexual activity; in female urine only directly after intercourse.
- Hormones, all sorts of them, including male/female sex hormones.
Now, especially if biology wasn’t your favorite at school this may sound weird and dangerous, this is what it boils down to in simple terms. All of this is either non-toxic at all or at least not in the quantities represented here. However, should you (accidentally or intentionally) swallow quantities of urine it is wise to help your kidneys, which as a result of this will get an overdose of elements and need to do quite a bit of overtime to dispose of them again. The solution is to drink extra water. Plain old water in large quantities. That way you will help and protect your kidneys (although these will not be harmed in anyway by an accidental drip or even mug full of urine).
Illness, medication and pregnancy
If your partner is on any form of medication or pregnant, things become different. Excess quantities of medicine will be disposed of mainly via the urine, so any intake of urine will also contain small quantities of this medicine or components of it. If the medication was just a simple over-the-counter pain killer – no problem but if it is a more serious drug, the general advice is not to enter into watersports games. That also goes for situations where any of the “giving” partner has any form of disease and in that case it does not only relate to the intake of urine. Diseases may also be spread via infection through small wounds, body openings and the eyes.
During pregnancy a female’s urine will contain an absolute overdose of sex hormones. These are harmless. But there will also be extras of many of the above mentioned elements and compounds as well as possibly some extra blood. Again the advice is, play safe and refrain from watersports games during pregnancy.
Urine should not contain bloodsugar (glucose) in any but minute amounts. If someone’s urine is discernibly sweet, barring him or her having consumed an artificial sweetener, that person ought to see a doctor. Tasting urine is the oldest way to determine diabetes. If this is the case, please do two things: one is to see a doctor as soon as possible. Secondly, turn to our advanced safety guide (also part of the Private Dungeon) for information on diabetes and erotic power exchange.
Finally; urine should also not contain blood or pus. That again is a signal to go and see your doctor immediately.
Safe sex
Important things first: watersports is NO game for incidental contacts, one night stands and other contacts with partners you are not absolutely certain about. If someone is zero-positive (carrier of the HIV-virus) the virus will also be in his/her urine and is hence a source for infection.
Next to this, certain sexually transmitted diseases (STD) are also spread through urine. The most well known one in this area is hepatitis in all varieties.
In general: watersports are just as safe or unsafe (depending on the way you look at things) as unprotected lovemaking. If you are uncertain about your partner or haven’t known him/her long enough, refrain from any activities that incorporate any direct contact with urine. This is also important to remember if either of you has or has had sexual contacts outside your relationship.
Never insert foreign objects into anybody’s urinal system. You will run a serious risk of doing severe damage if you do. This is especially important for catheters. Unless you have been taught how to do this (as in, you are a doctor or a qualified nurse) stay away from this, no matter what especially pornography may tell or show you.
Finally, a word of advice on being clean. Inserting dirty hands or toys may lead to very nasty infections. For information this, please refer to the advanced safety guide.
Frequently Asked Questions
This article deals with the most frequently asked questions about watersports. As always, it is almost impossible to deal with all questions, so no, we are not complete, neither thriving to be. There is a lot of good information around on the subject. Turn to the POWERotics book list (public area) for more information on titles.
How can you touch that stuff?
It is far from unnatural to feel resistance or shame when it comes to watersports. In fact – as always – if you don’t want it, don’t do it. You don’t have to and you, and only you, are the master of your own sexuality. And as explained, watersports does not necessarily have to incorporate physical contact with urine, or drinking it. On the other hand, the intake and other forms of contact with urine or urine-derivates is not as uncommon as you may think. Want a few examples? OK, here we go.
There are many cultures in which touching of urine is part of some practical or cosmetic activity or fertility ritual. There are peoples, for example in equatorial Africa, who use urine together with clay and ashes to form a paste which is very effective protection against insect bites.
Certain arctic cultures sometimes use urine for personal washing, especially in the winter when it is too cold to bare your genitals outdoors and when liquid water is precious. Any NAVY SEALs, commando or other experienced survival expert will tell you that drinking urine may keep you alive just a day or two longer and that drinking your own morning urine – as some do in Arab countries – is a perfect “kick start” for your metabolic system after sleep (for which purpose rabbits eat their morning excrements and human kind usually drinks coffee in the morning).
In the U.S., during the Civil War, Confederate women collected their urine and processed it into potassium nitrate for the war effort.
Looking for a fun one? In pre-Christian northern Europe, elder males consumed a drink made from the mushroom, Amanita muscara. This particular mushroom contains a psychoactive drug which is passed, unaltered, in the urine. More junior members of the group gathered and drank the urine of those who consumed the original drink, and got high also. This ritual is still performed in some obscure Russian secret conventions. (BTW – if you think this mushroom may be a good idea to use as a recreational drug, don’t do it. It is extremely toxic and some of the varieties of this particular mushroom are very efficient killers).
If I want it, how do I get past my shame?
It may very well be watersports is something you want, but thinking about it, let alone trying it, is a difficult subject. If this is something you really want, go about it carefully and preferably on your own first. For example, try taking a shower and pee over your own hand. This allows you to familiarize with the feel and the sensation of urine on your skin (which is something you will not really feel, it is mainly the idea of doing it). Remember that all components of urine are water-soluble and will wash away immidiately. There will be no residue whatsoever and you can explore freely without having any fear.
Once you have been able to familiarize yourself this way, why not ask your partner to join you in the shower and experiment with it exactly the same way, only together this time. The next step will be to try and turn the water off and experience just the urine flow this time (if it scares you, you can turn the shower on again immediately and wash it off).
If you have the option of outdoor water available (such as a lake or maybe even the ocean), try standing in it together, embrace and let the urine flow. You will notice the flow as well as the difference in temerature and still there is enough water around to dissolve it quickly. Going outdoor in the summer rain, get all wet and pee at the same time is another great exercise (and can even be very, very romantic as well).
Watching eachother pee without touching the stuff, making your partner wait before she allowed to relief herself or just plain and simple communication about the subject without actually having to do anything are also very good ways to familiarize with watersports in a non-threatening way. You may even want to get creative when it comes to watching each other and order some different positions. Or order her to relieve herself in unexpected moments or places, such as during a stroll through the woods or an evening walk through the park.
How to communicate about it?
Well, we assume you have already experienced that talking about your deepest desires – coming out to your partner – is not as difficult as it may seem. You are into erotic power exchange, aren’t you? So you probably will have done it before. Oke, watersports is a bit more touchy then talking about whipping or bondage. But then again, we did tell you all of this is about communication and being open and honest to each other, including deep, dark and scary fantasies.
“Hey honey, I want to piss on you, bend over,” is probably not a very good idea to start with. So what do you do? Well, here is one way – which again doesn’t have to be THE way, but it may help. Pick an intimate but relaxed moment and start talking about how much you enjoy touching your lover. Tell your partner about the parts of his or her body you enjoy and may be do some real touching. Then start talking about secret fantasies. Open up yourself and finally introdruce your watersports fantasy. But don’t make it sound like you wanted to talk about it all along and just manipulated him or her into it. It should be sincere and open communication, of course.
If the doesn’t work the first time, let it rest for a while and try again a few weeks later. Maybe that is a better moment. Another effective way to bring the subject up is via ordering your partner to hold her pee for a while and may be have her ask for relief. That is a non-threateningway of introducing the subject within your play.
Want some ways? Try wet massage for example, using lots and lots of lubricant in the genital area and DO try vaginal ejaculation (for information see Tricks of the Trade in the public section). Making love, cuddling and hugging in the shower, washing each other are aslo perfect ways to become more intimate with each other.
Oke, the urine is not so much the problem, if it wasn’t for that smell
If the odor is the problem, diluting your urine may be a very good idea. That reduces the smell considerably. Drinking fruit juice for example – or mineral rich water – helps reducing the smell of urine. So does beer (which will also help in producing more urine if that is what you are looking for).
Fish, eggs, meat, but also peas and peanuts will increase the smell of urine. So if you have had a rich meal the day before, or had a lot of peanuts, trying to dilute your urine is a very good idea. Remember that it is not what you have eaten a few hours ago is what is causing the problem. It what the things you ate the day before. Never, ever eat asparagus prior to watersports, it creates a terrible smell and also remember that if you are sweating a lot – because of sports activity or just because it is hot – your urine will also be more concentrated and hence smell more intens.
Finally, drinking lots and lots of water is good for your body anyway. because it will help cleaning it and it will dilute your urine as well. The more water you drink the less smelly (and less “tasty” by the way) your urine will be. Two liters a day (half a gallon) will make urine almost taste like slightly salted water.
What about the mess?
It is obvious that – unless you prepare yourself and have either lots of foil or rubber sheets available – the bedroom is probably not a good place for watersports. The bathroom usually is a very good choice (and you will be amazed how many submissive women especially get a kick out of “tiled areas”). If you really want to do it in bed, special disposable maternity mattresses (available from special pregnancy shops) will hold amazing amounts of fluid and can be very helpful.
We do need to warn you here for over enthusiastic diaper play. Don’t try to have an adult completely empty herself in a diaper and order her to keep it on. You won’t be the first to experience the embarrassing splash when the diaper can no longer hold the weight and ends up on the floor between your partner’s legs.
As for environmental issues, there is nothing against peeing outside. Dogs, cows and all other animals do it all the time. But do take a little care about where you do it. Preferably not on a spot somebody else is likely to pick for a picnic spot the next day. And please refrain from watersports in swimming pools. Another word of warning, is some areas and countries peeing in public is an offense. You can get fined and – when in Asia or Islamic countries – can get yourself in very, very serious trouble.
Reprinted Courtesy of The Powerotics Foundation