A very effective form of humiliation is to do totally useless things. Bondage is one of the best forms to use for this type of BDSM-action, since the sub cannot escape the humiliation and the ropes will also keep her in position. This may be a great objectification tool, especially for testing purposes, but also for effective objectification play.

What you do is this: tie her up and place her somewhere. If humiliation is the objective, place her somewhere where she is alone and in a situation that has no direct sexual connotation: the hall for example, or in the kitchen, sitting in the fridge, or in the shed or garage if you have one, and just leave her there. Nothing will happen, she won’t even be looked at or after, maybe for a long time. Make sure she is blindfolded and gagged, so she can’t call you and just has to sit, or lay or stand there and wait ….. wait and wait. For no apparent reason and TELL HER THIS!

Strange as it may sound, quite a few submissive women actually love it when they are being treated as useless slaves and their feelings are ignored and even ridiculed (either verbally or simply as a result of the situation). The more useless she feels, the more wet she gets – her body is betraying her and that is an extra humiliation that the dom has to do nothing for. It literally comes for free. Suddenly she is not the center of attention, must face herself and the situation and that is both tough and exciting to many.

There is every reason to be (more than) a little nasty to her, because what you want to do is rub in the “useless” aspect and the fact that there is nothing she can do to change that situation. Let her sit there and smell the coffee being poured, while she isn’t getting any – or dinner is being served but she just has to sit there. Ask her if she’s hungry or if she has to go to the bathroom (very nasty), but don’t do anything and since she’s gagged she can’t answer anyway.

You want to be nasty and cruel, play with her helplessness and frustration in various different ways, but don’t overdo that. Don’t bring up something every five minutes or so. It is important to leave her alone and inject things either as the logical result of the situation (such as the example of her being able to smell the coffee but not getting any) or do only one or two direct verbal injections. These however should best be a logical situation as well. In other words, make sure you don’t go to her specifically. It must be casual, incidental, such as while you have to be in the room where she is anyway, for other reasons.

The more you ignore her – and hence the more she feels she is being ignored – the better and that situation may very well last for a few hours or longer if both of you can handle that. From a safety point of view this means that you shouldn’t try and make things to complicated for her – just make sure she can’t leave her place but otherwise is comfortable and safe enough to remain there for a longer period of time.

Bear in mind that it is the uncertainty you are playing with. Her mind will probably race at 200 miles per hour and come up with all sorts of scenarios.

Very likely she will be scared to death that someone will come to visit and see her like this.

There will be frustration, she will desperately want physical and verbal contact she doesn’t get, she’ll get bored just “being” there and as a result more frustration kicks in.

It is these things you will want to play with and for a long time.

By the time you’ll untie her, she’ll probably be mad, but she’ll also be only too happy to to curl up on your lap or at your knees and that is what you want to try and achieve.

In fact, as she just sits or lays there, there will be a point where she will probably mentally beg you to do anything, as long as “something” is being done to her and that is an important issue.

She’ll need time afterwards for that to experience to settle in her mind, because it is an important step in her development.

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